Diary of a fat black woman

Here we go again…..

Weight. It seems to haunt each and every one of us. Whether we feel too fat or too thin, it is a rare specimen that feels happy with their body. I am with the majority, feeling very unhappy with myself but I believe that my feelings are warranted. I have never felt slim but then I guess the times I was at a healthy weight I was too young and carefree to notice.

If you have read any of my Diary of a sick black woman articles then you will know about my health issues over the last year. If you haven’t read them I will give you a quick run down. In April 2018 I ruptured a disc in my back which gave me some mobility issues. I had a day surgery in August 2018 to alleviate some of my symptoms and came out worse than I went in. I was diagnosed with Degenerative Disc Disease which means I will have limited mobility for life and will always suffer from chronic pain.

Limited mobility means that I am not burning as many calories as the average person. There was a period of time during which I was bed-bound and then slowly I began to learn to walk again and that contributed greatly to my weight gain. I now have a fulfilling life, going to work each day and out with the family but I have had to make changes to accommodate my needs. Unfortunately, one of the things I didn’t change was my eating habits, in fact they got worse. Because when you are in pain and barely able to move you don’t want to cook. You just want to pull up Just Eat and see who can deliver to your door. That means there was a lot of Chinese food, KFC and other take-aways in my life on a weekly basis.

So, having gotten to a larger than life weight I decided that I was going to try and lose some. I tried counting calories, Slimming World, Noom, I seemed to either not lose much weight at all or I’d fall off the wagon a few weeks in. This time I am sharing my weight loss journey with my readers and I hope this will give me enough accountability to stick with it.

1st August 2019 is the start date. I weighed in that morning at 16 stone and 7.75lbs. That’s approximately 232lbs which, at 5′ 9″, gives me a BMI of 33.1. According to the NHS BMI calculator a healthy weight for my height is 8st 13lb – 12st 1lb. I am going to aim for 12st. Losing 4st seems like a daunting quest but it has been done a hundred times before me and will be done a hundred times again, whether I am successful or not.

Some come along on this magic ride with me. Watch my vlog on my YouTube channel and give me a comment or two whether on here or on there. It may be an encouraging word, a recipe you want to share or even so exercise tips for ambulatory wheelchair users.

10 things to do when returning to work after long term illness

There are so many reasons why any one of us could be off work with a long term illness. Returning to work may seem daunting and even overwhelming. Take these 10 steps to ensure you are ready.

1. Talk to your employer.

While you are off sick keep regular contact with your employer. It may just be an email once a month to see how things are but keeping in touch reassures your employer you intend to return. Agree a provisional return date and increase contact closer to the time.

2. Talk to your GP and or consultant.

Speak to your medical team and let them know you intend to go back to work. They may have advise on support your employer can give you or equipment necessary. They can also amend or advise regarding medication at work.

3. Consider a phased return.

Instead of jumping back in full force, which may be setting yourself up for a fall, consider a phased return to work. Maybe half days or less days per week and work your way up to full hours.

4. Have a workplace assessment.

Ask your employer for ergonomic workplace assessment. Having this done before your return could ease your transition into work

5. Ensure all equipment has been bought and is in place.

If there is any equipment recommended by your medical team or by the workplace assessment ensure that this is all ordered with a delivery date in good time.

6. Consider travel.

Look into whether the journey you used to make into work is still feasible. If your condition affects your resilience factor in travelling time into your proposed work day.

7. Support network.

Establish and mobilise your support network. Whether it’s making sure that meals are cooked and ready for you to reheat in the evenings, giving you a lift to work or taking care of the shopping – any help is going to be a Godsend.

8. Bulk cooking. Consider cooking in bulk and separating portions for freezing. This will help on those days you are too tired to cook and can be taken for lunch when the time comes.

9. Sort out medication. The routine that you have fallen into while you have been off work is about to change drastically. It is not unusual for you to forget to take your medication because of the changes. Make sure you have the medication you need to take while you are out of the house and set reminders. Failure to take your medication can be a set back to your health and your return to work.

10. Lastly, feedback if it is too much. Monitor the way you feel throughout your work day and also through the week. If you feel overwhelmed feedback to your employer or your GP. A slight change in work hours or medication are just a couple of the changes that can be made.

Most employers are very accommodating when it comes to returning to work. Legally your employer has an obligation to make reasonable adjustments to ensure you are able to work if you have a disability. If your employer does not have their own Occasional Health department then a free workplace assessment can be done through the government scheme Access To Work.

Overall enjoy yourself. I, for one, really grew frustrated at being home and useless for so long and I’m chomping at the bit to get back to work. Don’t stress yourself out, enjoy it!.

Wheelchair Friendly London


Sometimes I have to wonder who I think I am. It’s true that a lot of people ignore a cause until it affects them personally. I guess I’m just one of those people. If you have been reading my health posts you will know that I am currently using a wheelchair. Having never had to use a chair before, every difficulty faced is new to me. Like the first time I tried to get on a bus, only the driver dropped the ramp without actually lowering the bus and I tried to wheel myself up I flipped over onto my back. Hello A&E.



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